Nine Virtues 4-6 of ADF   1 comment


According to mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty

While I agree with the definition as shown here, there’s something missing, the courage to do nothing.  There are times in my life where it took more courage to do nothing.  Such as when someone has said or done something to me that causes either pain or anger.  It’s at those times where it takes more courage to stop and think, or to just let it go.  However, there are times when you must stand up for yourself or others when you see something that’s just not right.  Being able to see and have the courage to interfere when someone else is being hurt.  Or standing up to a friend whose about to drive drunk, I’ve done that a few times.  Or to go to the source when something has been said about you, to drill down to the truth of the matter takes a great deal of courage.

Yes, it takes courage to do something that is difficult for you to do.  Like facing fear, such as public speaking during a Ritual High Day, it takes a lot of courage to stand there with all eyes on you.  But with determination to do what needs to be done it can be accomplished.  Or when doing your first at home Rite by your shrine and being scared of messing it up, takes a will be know that the Kindred won’t sit there and laugh at you, or punish you for doing it wrong but rather know that they smile with patience, knowing that this will get easier as you go along.  The courage to ask something of the Deities without feeling selfish or self centered.



According to

1: firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values : incorruptibility

2: an unimpaired condition : soundness

3: the quality or state of being complete or undivided :

Once again this one isn’t the easiest for it has many implications to it, both mundanely and magically.  Having integrity is to have people know that you’re true to your word, being truthful with yourself and others.  That you have set a code of conduct that can’t be altered just because someone else thinks that it’s foolish.  It’s holding you responsible for your actions and words.  I also think of a saying, walk the walk and talk the talk.  You can’t say to do one thing and then turn around and do the opposite of what you said.  It’s also following your path and not being swayed to go against what you know is right just because of the crowd.

Another word that can be used is honor.  Honor the Kindred the best way you can.  Honor the relationships that you have, and not to expect others to walk your path and not theirs.  Honor in dealing with friends and strangers alike.  To be charitable to others, give of your time, give of your love, to honor oaths that you have taken.  Also being fair to others, understand that your way isn’t their way and that doesn’t make their way wrong.  But also letting go of selfish needs and desires, opening your heart to others needs and desires.  Only doing good while doing magic, make sure that it’s for the greater good and not for revenge or anything of a negative connotation.  Not asking the Kindred to hurt or injury someone, but instead ask that they will learn and walk a better path.


According to continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition : the action or condition or an instance of persevering : steadfastness

Or how I put it tenacity, not letting a project go until it gets done.  Even when the road is tough and things seem impossible to keep it up even if it’s at a snails pace.  It reminds me of the tale of the tortoise and the hare.  The hare rushed getting the race over and done with, and lost his way.  While the tortoise kept to the path, he never gave up and always knew that the end of the race was before him.  Sure enough the tortoise won the race because he persevered.  My neighbor had a stroke a few months ago, his left side was paralyzed.  He has persevered through his therapy and can now walk with help from a cane and a leg brace.  His left arm is still immovable but again through therapy movement was spotted by his therapist.  I see him from time to time and he has kept a positive attitude knowing that with hard work he can gain his movement back.

Even working the Dedicant Program takes perseverance as I’m finding out.  It’s not easy and the tasks seem daunting, but working the program step by step and not becoming frustrated makes it easier.  With the smallest steps that I have taken I see that it can be done so long as I don’t give up and throw in the towel.  I my opinion if you believe in yourself and keep saying “I know I can” almost everything can be worked through and you come out at the end better and stronger for the journey.  Just looking through my past I can now see where I persevered and came out a better person for it.  I also know that with my tenacity nothing can hold me back accept for me caving into my own disbelief in myself.


Posted December 20, 2011 by Sandra Yost in Personal Essays

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